Amazing Sex – Are You Doing These 3 Important Sex Techniques In the Bedroom?

Are you having amazing sex?

You might think you are, but unless you are aware of these 3 very important sex techniques that must be employed then you might actually be having less than amazing sex. Even if you are aware of these important tips, this will serve as a reminder of how vital it is to employ them regularly in the bedroom.

    1. Are you lasting long enough (and this is NOT just for the guys!) This has to be mentioned and must be stressed because it is the number one problem which prevents couples from having amazing sex. If you are a guy and you can’t hold out long enough then there is no alternative but to learn techniques so that you can last as long as you wish in the bedroom. Sex will be a thousand times better for your partner and it will be vastly improved pleasure wise for yourself as well. Learn the techniques and last longer in bed! Now, this is not just for the guys. Ladies you have to learn to extend your sexual pleasures as well and not become too anxious to orgasm. This is actually a problem which rarely gets mentioned. There are many women who will jump right into sex and start grinding away trying to orgasm as quickly as possible. Take your time! Enjoy sex and don’t rush it. This is actually frustrating for the guy who is making concerted efforts to hold out in anticipation for long lasting sex, yet suddenly finds the sexual act over too early due to an overzealous female lover.
    1. Going down. Oral sex is an act that should be practiced regularly. Almost all sex which is considered “incredible” will include oral sex. Now even if you don’t orgasm through the specific act of oral, it is still an excellent “warm up” to the actual act of sex itself. You can make oral sex a separate experience or combine it as an all in one experience. That is you can stimulate one another through oral means to achieve orgasm, and then have another session of regular intimacy, or you can include oral pleasures as mentioned before, like a warmup before the real deal. Oral importance applies to both men and women, but it should be stressed more on men due to their general lack of knowledge on how to perform mind blowing cunnilingus. Guys, you have to learn the techniques for performing proper oral so as to get the mind blowing orgasmic results your after.
  1. Doggy Style or Reverse Cowgirl. Are you employing these positions enough during sex? Again, more often than not when you employ these positions you are headed towards what is considered to be incredible sex. If you are just doing the standard missionary position or the women on top position then you are just having the usual run of the mill type of sex. Doggy style or reverse cowgirl both offer increased stimulation for the female and an enormous amount of visual stimulation for the male who is able to view and grab the beautiful rear end of his partner, while also reaching up or around to obtain a nice hand grabbing of breast stimulation. These are two very important positions not to be ignored!

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Sex Frequency: How Much Sex Is Healthy?

It really is hard to believe that a woman’s worries over how often she has sex can affect her emotionally and even physically. What makes it even more difficult for a woman to determine if she is having sex often enough, is the sheer amount of statistical information that is available. Unfortunately, this information is generally inconclusive and only causes more confusion and worry.

How Much Sex is Normal?

There truly is not an answer to how much sex is enough, every woman is different. It is natural for a woman’s sexual desire to decline as she ages, and this will affect how often she needs sex to feel satisfied and content. It is normal for a younger woman though, to engage in sex more often in order to feel satisfied, since her sexual hormonal levels are higher. The aging process and sexual hormonal level are not the only factors the affect high much sexual intercourse is normal.

* Major life events
* Physical and emotional health
* Medications
* Childbirth
* Severe grief or depression
* Physical or sexual abuse
* Stress

All of these can affect what is a “normal” amount of sexual intercourse for a woman. Many of these factors are temporary, and her sexual need and frequency may increase. There simply is no way to determine what a normal amount of sex is for a woman. Every woman is different in her needs and desires. If she is satisfied and fulfilled, then chances are she is leading a normal healthy sex life.

What Happens When a Woman is not having Enough?

At times in a woman’s life, she may feel like she is not getting enough sexual attention. When this happens over a long period of time, problems may begin to develop. When one partner is no longer interested in sexual intercourse problems will begin to develop in the relationship. The relationship could completely break apart, sexual needs could be met elsewhere, and often one or both parties are left with feelings of sexual inadequacy.

Unfortunately, sexual discussions still remain difficult for many couples, and one of them may not understand the strain the lack of sex is putting on the relationship. Sexual needs not being met is one of the leading underlying causes of divorce, and could often be prevented with open and honest discussions about sexual needs and desires.

Does Too Much Sex Affect A Woman’s Life:

For some women, sex can control and affect almost every aspect of their lives. This is not only true for some women, but for some men as well. Sex can begin to affect a person’s life when it becomes all consuming. When every thought and action is planned around sexual activities, then there could be a problem.

Sex addictions affect millions of people, and it is often seen as a shameful disease. Sex addiction is often diagnosed as an uncontrollable mental and physical need to have sex. Sometimes this need can override impulse control and sexual crimes can be committed.

Most of the time having too much sex simply interrupts other daily activities. Most cases of excessive sex can be treated with simple therapy.

There is no way to determine how much sex is enough sex in anyone’s life. Everyone has different needs and desires. If a woman is feeling satisfied and content sexually, then she is probably enjoying a normal and healthy sex life.

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How Do I Get My Wife To Want Sex Like She Did When We First Married?

When you and your wife first married, was the sex life the two of you shared really great?

And, after a relatively short period of time, did the frequency-level and passion-level drop off significantly… such that now, the sex life the two of you share is a major source of frustration for you?

If yes, then you have plenty of company. Perhaps more than any other, this is the unhappy story that I hear from married men.

I frequently have men tell me that they feel so much dissatisfaction in their marriage that if they had it to do over, they would have NEVER married their wife… or any woman for that matter… and that if they ever end up divorced they will never again marry. As I listen to these men, the deep-seated pain, hurt, resentment, and anger towards their wife is apparent.

In a nutshell, many a husband feels that he has been cheated and defrauded by his wife. He feels this way because the MAJOR thing he married her for is the MAJOR thing she refuses to share. Specifically, he married for one predominant reason: closeness, intimacy, and sex with a woman that he was attracted to… and that is what he ends up getting the least of in his marriage.

All too often, the typical husband feels like his wife has figured out that his desire for closeness, intimacy, and sex is the one lever by which she can control him, manipulate him, punish him, hurt him, or hold him hostage… and she capitalizes upon this unethical leverage with all of her being.

In the mind of the typical husband, IF his wife LOVES affection, intimacy, and sex with him then she LOVES him. But, if she does NOT love affection, intimacy, and sex with him… then she does NOT really love him. For his wife to love sex with him… is for her to really love him. Given the not-very-sexual nature of so many marriages, this means there are a LOT of husbands who do not feel very loved in their marriage.

And, on one hand, it is easy to sympathize with the plight of the typical married man because WHILE he and his lady were dating… and when they were first married, she WAS really into being close, intimate, and sexual. His lady LITERALLY painted the picture that she was everything he wanted in a woman. His lady WAS VERY focused, specific, targeted, and strategic in causing him to believe that she was everything he had ever dreamed of in a woman. While they were dating, she acted as if whatever issues, problems, and baggage she had did not exist.

But then, all too frequently, once the man made the leap… and made the commitment… and planted roots… once he let himself get “locked in”… THEN his wife began to withdraw and withhold from him the very thing he married her for. Now that they are married, well now all of a sudden her issues, problems, and baggage from the past are reasons why she cannot be close, intimate, or sexual.

This is why many men feel like they were “trapped” by their wife. They feel like they were “sold a bill of goods” only to discover AFTER THEY HAD PAID THE PRICE that they had been scammed and conned.

(Perhaps it is the influence of hundreds of thousands of such unhappy, frustrated married men… combined with backlash against the VERY male-unfriendly, dad-unfriendly family-law system… that explains why there is a significantly-upward trend where more and more young guys refuse to marry… choosing instead a friends-with-benefits, easy-come-easy-go lifestyle where they give no commitment or legal-leverage to females.)

But, regardless of the back-story, the fact remains that these men ARE now married. They DO have roots now. They have commitments that tie them down… their job… extended families… a mortgage… plus children and their activities and networks… and it becomes easy to understand why so many husbands feel “imprisoned”.

(This also makes it easy to understand why some men just walk away… why they leave everything they love and care about more than anything else behind… and just disappear into a whole different world.)

Of course, IF the wife of these men would just continue to be the wife that she was when they first married, then they would not be feeling this way… rather, they would be feeling “in love” and committed. But their wife is NOT the wife that she used to be… and so pretty much everything these men do… and everything they are involved in… loses its meaning.

Consequently, these men find themselves struggling with questions such as:

1) What happened to my wife? Why did she stop being the warm, affectionate, intimate, and sexual woman that she used to be?

2) What can I do to restore what we used to have? What can I do to take our marriage back to what it used to be? What can I do to bring back the intimacy and sex we used to share? How do I get my wife back?

3) Is it even possible to bring back the closeness and intimacy that we once shared? Or, should I just forget about ever having a satisfying relationship with my wife again… and just find myself a mistress on the side? Or, should I just walk away from it all… and go start over with some other woman?

Sadly, by the way their wife phrases things… by the way their wife criticizes and condemns their interest in intimacy, affection, and sexual desire… by the negative thought patterns of their wife… by the hateful, spiteful, belittling attitudes of their wife… most husbands end up feeling like having a satisfying marriage with their wife is a hopeless pipe-dream… and therefore, they must choose between the options of a life of misery, a mistress, or a divorce… options that NO normal man wants to have to choose from.

He WANTS a fantastic, satisfying relationship with his wife… but he does not know of any way to create that kind of relationship.

Continuing on with our topic… a common and popular explanation for why a woman stops being as affectionate, intimate, and sexual after marriage revolves around the notion that a woman’s chemical-makeup changes… for no controllable or explainable reason… after marriage… and especially after having children… such that her sex-drive drops off… such that she no longer feels the hormonally-driven desire for sex on the same level that she did previously.

This explanation is accepted by men the world over. They do not like it that their wife has changed… but they can accept this explanation because it “feels good” to find out that the reason their wife has shut-down sexually has nothing to do with them. In other words, if the problem is due to a chemical change in their wife, then that is a failure on her part rather than a failure on his part… and that soothes his ego.

The problem is, this commonly-accepted reason simply is NOT true. Here is what you must know: a woman does NOT lose her sex-drive just because she got married. If anything, her desire for sex increases! Moreover, a woman’s sex-drive does not go away when she has children. If anything, having children causes her to want sex more than ever. (I am referring to after her body recovers from the birthing process.)

To illustrate this point in an extreme fashion, I have encountered women who were in the hospital for serious issues… in one case, a woman who was literally dying with cancer… and yet even in such dire circumstances, it was easy to observe romantic, sexual notions going through the mind of these women… and being reflected on their faces… as they interacted with an attractively-operating MAN.

Observations like these confirm the fact that until the day she dies… regardless of circumstances and conditions… what a woman wants… and dreams of… does not change. What she wants will ALWAYS be a part of who she is.

Perhaps you have wondered what exactly it is that women want. Maybe you have grappled with trying to understand what your own wife specifically wants. You may even be one of those men who have joked about not knowing what women want. Well, what a normal woman wants is actually very simple… and I am going to reveal it to you right here:

“What a woman wants more than anything else in life is a man who she can have a life-long positive, inspiring, passionate, fun, exciting, meaningful, significant, successful, loving, warm, affectionate, intimate, and sex-filled relationship with. Sure, there are other things a woman wants in life too. Typically, she wants to have children. Typically, there are hopes and dreams that she wants to see realized. But, above all else, what a woman wants is a satisfying relationship with a man who operates in an attractive, desirable, appealing, and sexy way.”

Now, let’s consider what is being said here: I am asserting that women do not lose their sex drive after getting married or after having children… and yet, it is a well-known, commonly-acknowledged, frequently-experienced fact that a large percentage of wives become not-very-sexual after marriage.

So, does this mean my assertion is wrong?

Well, it is true that many wives do stop being as sexual with their husband after they have been married for a while… but the not-intuitive point to understand is this: just because a wife has stopped being as sexual with her husband does NOT mean that she has stopped desiring sex!

When a wife stops being sexual with her husband… that most-often means she has lost the feelings that cause her to desire sex with her husband… she has lost the feelings that open her up to wanting sex with her husband… but she still very much has the desire for sex with an attractively-operating man.

Here is the RULE every husband must understand: A woman cannot long be sexual with an undeveloped, unattractively-operating guy.

Logically, you know this rule is true because you understand that in the inverse, you yourself could not long remain sexual with a gross, repulsive woman.

Now, this rule begs the question, “How does a woman INITIALLY desire sex with an undeveloped, unattractively-operating guy?

Well, let’s drill down into what happens…

By age 13 at the latest… sometimes even much younger than this… a female starts BUILDING a fantasy in her mind of what it would be like to be with a male. She spends a LOT of time building this fantasy. She builds it by talking about it with her female-friends. She builds it by watching romantic movies. She builds it by reading romantic books and magazines, and so on.

Consequently, by the time she is of marrying age, all she needs is a “cute guy” with a nice smile, a passable body, and reasonably decent manners to show her some interest and attention… so that SHE can plug him in to HER fantasy.

The critical point here is that in most cases, the typical guy did NOT get into a relationship with his lady because he had great skill. He got into a relationship with her because she had spent years craving a guy… she had spent years imagining a romanticized, idealized relationship with a guy… and all she needed was a guy to plug in to her fantasy… and he happened to be the one who made it easy for her to plug him in.

Now, a female’s fantasy is something that excites her… it is something that she wants… it is something that turns her on… AND THE RESPONSE THAT THE FEMALE HAS TO HER OWN FANTASY… creates a warm, affectionate, intimate, and sexual response in her towards the guy she has plugged in.

Comically, this often leads the guy into thinking that he is a “stud”… that he is “the man”.

But, by the time they have been married for 6-36 months, it has typically become very clear to the female that the guy she married is NOTHING like the guy she had imagined in her fantasy… which drives her to UN-plug her husband from her fantasy… which squelches her desire relative to him… which squelches her willingness to be affectionate, intimate, and sexual with him… and soon enough, the guy no longer feels like a “stud”… soon enough, the guy feels like he has “lost it”… and he very much feels like his marriage is a “dud”.

What is frustrating to the husband is that he does not know what happened. He cannot figure out why his wife went from so hot and passionate… to so cold and distant. And, he is left feeling stumped with no clue about how to take his relationship with his wife back to what it used to be.

Well, here is what I can tell you…

The root problem is a lack-of-development problem… a lack-of-female-handling-skill problem… a lack-of-masculine-attractiveness problem!

Now, the typical husband is plenty masculine and attractive in his workplace, hobbies, and other areas of his life. But, when the typical husband walks through the front door of his house… and he starts interacting and relating with his wife… a woman who REALLY knows him for who and what he is… a woman who has firsthand knowledge and experience of his lack of female-handling development and skill… THAT IS WHEN THINGS FALL APART for him!

And actually, it would not matter WHO the guy was married to… because his mode of operation would reliably create more or less the same response in ANY woman he was married to.

Sadly, the typical husband did not grow up in an environment where his father-figure modeled how to be an attractively-operating man who knew how to lead, manage, handle, and interact with a woman in a positive way. Consequently, the typical husband did not get the REQUIRED development or skills while he was growing up.

Moreover, the typical husband has never taken the personal initiative to develop himself into an attractively operating man… he has never done anything significant towards acquiring the REQUIRED skills.

Either way, the result is that as his wife’s fantasy begins wearing off… as his wife begins to see him for the undeveloped guy he really is… instead of the attractively-operating man she FANTASIZED him to be… and as she progressively UN-plugs him from her fantasy… well, her sex-drive… RELATIVE TO HIM… begins drying up.

So, the net result is that yes there IS a chemical change in his wife… her libido DOES go down… but it is NOT for some mysterious, random, unknown, unquantifiable reason. Actually, there is a very specific reason…

A wife’s libido goes down AS A RESULT OF HOW SHE IS USING HER MIND RELATIVE TO HER HUSBAND… AS A RESULT OF HOW SHE IS RESPONDING TO HIS UNDEVELOPED, UNSKILLED, UNATTRACTIVE MODE OF OPERATION.

But, put this woman in the presence of a developed, skilled man… the kind of man who she WANTS to plug into her fantasy… and you would see her libido sky-rocket in an instant! In the presence of an attractively-operating man with skills, a normal woman’s body will produce MORE THAN ENOUGH hormones to make her sexually hungry and sexually wild!

In other words, when a man learns how to operate and interact in such a way that he creates a turned-on response in a woman’s mind, then he will find that there is NOTHING wrong with her chemical/hormonal configuration and that her desire for sex is just fine.

As it applies to you personally: when you learn how to create the right feelings within your wife’s mind… then she will have the kind of response to YOU that you want her to have!

Let’s dive deeper into this development point: all a woman has to do is just “look good” and she can continue to be attractive, desirable, and a turn-on to her husband. (Of course, in reality there is plenty of effort that goes into “looking good” that many men do not understand or have to deal with… but that is a different topic.) However, this point is NOT true in reverse. As a husband, you can “look good” all day long and that is NOT going to keep your wife turned on towards you. Similarly, you can be an “excellent provider” or a “great dad” and as important as these characteristics are, none of them are going to keep your wife turned on affectionately, intimately, or sexually towards you.

If you want to keep your wife turned on, the ONLY way you can do that is to DEVELOP YOURSELF INTO A MAN WHO UNDERSTANDS FEMALES AND WHO HAS FEMALE ATTRACTING AND HANDLING SKILLS.

In other words, your wife was more or less just born with what she needed to KEEP you attracted to her and turned on by her. But, it does NOT work this way in reverse. You must DEVELOP yourself and your skills in order to KEEP your wife attracted to you and turned-on by you!

That brings us to this: YOUR WIFE STILL HAS HER FANTASY TUCKED SOLIDLY AWAY IN HER MIND!

What this means is that the secret to getting your wife to be as sexual with you as she used to be is to develop yourself into the kind of man that your wife WANTS to plug into her fantasy.

The secret is to actually develop yourself and your skills so that you BECOME the man that your wife originally THOUGHT you were. When you ARE this attractively-operating MAN with skills, then your wife will plug you in to her fantasy and she will have the same kind of response to you NOW that she had towards you BEFORE!

In fact, IF you become and operate as the attractive kind of man I am talking about here… you could not stop your wife from plugging you in to her fantasy and having a turned-on response towards you… even if you wanted to (assuming you have not went so far as to “burn your bridges” with her).

Now, here is something you may find hard to believe… but it is absolutely true… and has been proven to be true by many, many men who have went through my program: you can in fact develop yourself and your skills such that you become even MORE attractively-operating, desirable, appealing, and sexy than anything your lady ever imagined… which means that she will have an even MORE intimate, affectionate, and sexual response towards you than she has ever had before… meaning that YOU CAN create a relationship with your wife NOW that is BETTER than anything the two of you have ever shared before. Believe it or not, it is true!

All it takes is YOU making the decision that you ARE going to develop yourself and your skills. The rest will happen naturally and automatically… just like it did the FIRST time. The difference is that THIS TIME, YOU WILL BE THE REAL DEAL… THIS TIME, A GREAT MARRIAGE WILL BE SUSTAINABLE AND ENDURING… in short, the good times will LAST!

Copyright 2014, Article by Calle Zorro of MarriedAndHappy.com

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Sex by the Birth Signs – Igniting the Sexual Fire With Your Lover

Wanna light your lover’s fire; set their world on fire? Every birth sign, regardless of what the sign is, has things they are attracted to that ignite their sexual desires. Some are subliminal and some are obvious; but they all worth knowing!

So what’s the hidden secret to stoke the flame in your love life by the signs?

ARIES: March 21 – April 20
Ruler: Mars Element: Fire Sign Color: Red Symbol: The Ram
Spiritual Element: Perseverance
Physical Element: Hot/Active
Emotional Element: Courageous

Aries survive on full throttle ahead; they love the thrill of the mating game and always notice a sexual twinkle in the eye; even if you are strangers at the airport. They are hot blooded and up for the hunt and willing to take you up on a sexual romp. They love rapid fire movements, even in bed. Even more exciting is planning the details to the sex game and then immediately carrying it out; not much conversation after the sex play planning; its game on!

Arians love dynamic sex and are wildly turned on by a super fit body; one that says ‘I’m made for action!’

For Aires, it is bliss if you stop in the midst of something important and head off for a romp and play and then head right back to work. The fast talking, fast walking silver tongued devilish eyed rogue is an instant turn on. Aries may play the field, and play it frequently. If Aries is the one you’re trying to ignite, remember you are dealing with a natural fire and force. Be natural, spontaneous and down to earth. Pretentiousness is next door to boredom with Aires. Think hot blooded games with fiery actions. The deadly sin for bedding and exciting an Arian is never to bore them, they simply won’t come back. However, when they finally do commit to any relationship, they are loyal to the end, so long as you don’t bore them.

TAURUS April 21 – May 21
Ruler: Venus Element: Earth Sign Color: Green
Symbol: The Bull Spiritual Element: Secure
Physical Element: Active/Warm
Emotional Element: Sociable

Taurus is the lusty earth sign ruled by Venus, the Goddess of Love. Your Taurus lover responds to their surroundings. They love the feeling of wealth and cushy comfort; soft fabrics, enjoying a night of socializing with slow wine and dancing in elegant surroundings. Think Cowboy Casanova with your Taurus partner. You play Casanova and let them seduce you like a paid date; shocking you say? Discussing the terms is the best part for them! Leaving the elegant surroundings in the public eye and turning into the tramp between the sheets is bliss for a Taurus date night.

If you are planning on an elegant, in home date, lower the lights, make sure the food is sensuous, play beautiful and soothing music and waltz your way into the boudoir for sex with utter abandon.

Taureans are sensuous; don’t get bossy or manipulating with them or you will watch the paid date make a fast exit. Think earthy and sensuous with musky cologne or perfume and a long lazy romp.

Gemini May 22 – June 21
Ruler: Mercury Element: Earth Sign Color: Yellow
Symbol: The Twins Spiritual Element: Wisdom
Physical Element: Move/Cool
Emotional Element:Peaceful

Your Gemini lover requires stoking the fire before it suddenly bursts into full flame ahead! You need to capture their mind first; sharing music, tales of foreign places visited or anything that you can intelligently discuss is the glue that bonds Gemini. Once they have decided to engage in the game, it is full speed ahead! Gemini loves to play love games. Touching is essential, soft, whispering and caresses while you decide who will play what role in this next love game are a sensual start to igniting your Gemini.

This sign loves to touch; if you enjoy oral sex, nibbling on ears and other erotic oral stimulation you will soar to the front of Gemini’s preferred partner list in sexual escapades. An impulsive sense of amusing one another is essential to full flame ahead with your Gemini lover. Leave the fan on to simulate the wind blowing through the skies leaving Gemini free to soar. If you are slow to turn on you may find your Gemini has left the building. Once it is game on with this sign, they are ready to play and are bored by the slow or no stimulation partner.

Cancer June 22 – July 22
Ruler: Moon Element: Water Sign
Color: White/Silver
Symbol: The Crab
Physical Element: Peaceful/Cool
Emotional Element: Peaceful

Cancer rules the home and behind closed doors is where the crab comes out to play. Leave the caveman tactics behind when you’re planning on igniting the crab to the heights of pleasure. They are turned off by an overt show of power. Cancer rules the breasts and male Cancer’s are attracted to lacy feminine lingerie that showcases them. Cancer loves the bikini wax; smooth, sleek soft skin is the turn on for the crab.

Cancer is a vibrant and sensitive lover and responds to romantic overtures, soft music and sensual abandonment in their bed. They need to know their lover before they seal the deal. They are not much interested in multiple partners in a sex games. However, they are turned on by and willing to play any role you choose to heighten arousal and create an explosion in bed.

LEO July 22 – August 21
Ruler: Sun Element: Fire Sign
Color: Orange/Gold
Symbol: The Lion
Physical Element: Hot/Move
Emotional Element: Purity

Leo has a royal personality, as in King of the jungle. They like living life large; if you want to inspire a long sensuous growl from your lion there are cardinal rules you must follow. Stinginess is a total turnoff for Leo. If you are planning a night out in hopes of a hot mating game with the lion, even the tip must be generous. It is essential to Leo that the world can see he or she has captured the prize. You need to grace their arm by being the best dressed; opulence is nice, but glamour is essential. Leo’s have an inbred since of being wealthy; an opulent lifestyle makes them feel powerful. And what is the King of the jungle, if not powerful.

Treat Leo like the lion he/she is. Maintain direct eye contact, give them your undivided attention when you are in public and more so when you are in their lair. Leo is passionate; every sexual connection will be different. You may entice with all over foreplay one night and then jump immediately into the coals of the Leo passion the next. Like the jungle cat they are, you must be tuned into their moods and stroke them while you stoke the fire with your attention. The packaging is everything with Leo. Mind the manner in which you dress for success in Leo’s bed. Overt sexuality in jungle prints is fine so long as the accessories are opulent. And Leo loves trinkets! Be one.

VIRGO August 22 – September 23
Ruler: Mercury Element: Earth Sign
Color: Brown/Navy
Symbol: The Lion
Physical Element: Healing
Emotional Element: Steadfast

If you are planning on igniting the fires of your Virgo lover you had better be a clean machine. It is top of the list for what attracts the Virgo partner. And talk a good game; Virgo loves it when you talk dirty to them, especially about what you intend to do to them. They have an active imagination and can follow the dirty pillow talk to wild orgasms!

Baths and massages together, sumptuous cologne, with plenty of earthy talk and clean sheets, followed by ardent foreplay and hot sex are the stuff memories are made of to be the call of the wild for your Virgo. A slovenly lifestyle, dirt under your fingernails and no attention to detail is a surefire way to begin a new relationship without your Virgo. On the other hand, a bright white sultan’s tent with piles of pillows is the magical, mystery tour with your Virgo.

LIBRA September 24 – October 23
Ruler: Venus Element: Air Sign Color: Pastels
Symbol: The Scales
Physical Element: Warm/Grow
Emotional Element: Balance

If you are fanning the flame with a Libra, ambience is the theme in your relationship. Libra has a very refined nature and loves quiet elegance in their surroundings. Unlike Leo, who loves opulence, Libra loves elegance, refined and polished elegance. In the boudoir silk under clothing and a soft and sumptuous bustier are staples for the Libra retiring for great sex.

Massages to the lower back, music for the soul and food and wine after the dance will waltz Libra into imagining you are the heights of passion. Add kissing and cuddling afterwards to seal the deal in your favor. Avoid arguing or base behavior with your Libra mate; balance is of utmost importance in their relationships.

SCORPIO October 24 – November 22
Ruler: Pluto Element: Water Sign
Color: Dark Red/Black
Symbol: The Scorpion
Physical Element: Hot/Energy
Emotional Element: Strength

Scorpio strut their stuff in the sexual satisfaction department. They are proud of being closely associated with pure primal sexcapades and particularly enjoy the shock effect they have on a sexual partner. Your position to snare a Scorpio reverses. You want to let them snare you in their web. Raw sexuality is the preferred method of dress; tight jeans, studded T shirts and anything else that ignores refined good taste and allows the raw sexuality to be exposed is Scorpio driven.

Your Scorpio partner enjoys a variety of sexual positions. They are not turned off by sex games, not even by S & M. They are not interested in the pain or pleasure at that point, but love the unleashed power of sexuality expressed. Awesome intimacy and a raw sexual connection define your Scorpio. So, to entice the Scorpio to come out from dark wet cave to invite you into their world, step back and allow them to overcome you as the master in the bedroom. They thrive in that position. Scorpio is adept at one night stands but thrives when they build trust in their sexual relationships. Scorpio has a wicked sense of humor and despises anyone who doesn’t.

SAGITTARIUS November 23 – December 22
Ruler: Jupiter Element: Fire Sign
Color: Purple/Orange
Symbol: The Archer
Physical Element: Cooling
Emotional Element: Faith

Your Sag lover is filled with enthusiasm and loves hugs, kisses and loud and playful fun. You may feel like you have captured a big, bounding, happy puppy. If you are not turned on by rough and tumble sexual escapades you may want to pass on the archer. They are simply filled with enthusiasm about life in general and sex in particular. They are attracted to beautiful legs and love whispering sweet nothings.

The best way to impress your Sag is by expressing your unabashed high spirits before the sex begins and even more while in the throes of lust. They hate artifice and will not be interested in any kind of relationship when they sense it. Sincere compliments are welcome; don’t bother with any artificial behavior. They will sense it instantly and off goes the archer. They are owned by no one so don’t bother with trying to corral your Sagittarius. However, you can coax them into your world on a permanent basis with your giggles and pure joy in life in general.

CAPRICORN December 23 – January 20
Ruler: Saturn Element: Earth Sign
Color: Black/Dark Brown
Symbol: The Mountain Goat
Physical Element: Cool/Strong
Emotional Element: Power

Capricorn is the master of their destiny and the master of their sexual prowess. Beginning with the intricately planned sex games they enjoy. Capricorn, the goat, must climb the mountain and scale the top, even in the sex games. To excite your Capricorn you must join in the intricate planning of the games. The secret to igniting the goat’s fire is the bantering sex play, laughing, and sharing jokes along with the foreplay and kissing before sex leads the goat to the top of the emotional mountain.

They enjoy oral sex and games that help build the momentum. Rituals and easy familiarity with their partner only enhance their exuberance that leads to the meat of the game, the actual act. This is where they enjoy committing the bulk of their energy; and allows them to show off their prowess. Capricorn hates irresponsibility.

Woe be unto the partner charged with ensuring the plan for the sex games who failed to get it done, or failing to take your birth control pills. Your goat will be completely turned off by this. They are also disinterested in ‘quickies’ and any thought of group sex. However, understated cologne scents will entice your Capricorn back to the game table.

AQUARIUS January 21 – February 19
Ruler: Uranus Element: Air Sign
Color: Turquoise
Symbol: The Water Bearer
Physical Element: Cool/Balance
Emotional Element: Innovation

Aquarius lovers are zany and love the unexpected. A quickie in some unexpected place in an unexpected opportunity is their idea of great sex. This sign can be sexy in a cardinal way and yet remain distant in the act. They would be comfortable in the Woodstock setting where multiple partners in unexpected settings are possible.

Aquarians hate messy or emotional scenes in relationships and are attracted to sex with other races; they love all that is outside the typical. You may feel like you have encountered a lightening lit sky with bolts that seem to jolt you as you engage in sex with an Aquarian. If it is a little shocking, it is always memorable. They are willing to try almost anything and many times gravitate to even giving bi-sexual relationships a chance.

PISCES February 20 – March 20
Ruler: Neptune Element: Water Sign
Color: Sea Green Symbol: The Fish
Physical Element: Balancing
Emotional Element: Healing

If you have assumed Pisces love to go with the flow, think again when it comes to the sex department. They really enjoy the master and dominance games. Add the sounds of water flowing to sooth the fish and you are nearing a blissful state.

Pisces loves silk pajamas and all the spa essentials like scents, candles, even incense to set the mood. This is a dreamy sign that needs coziness and comfort to feel really stimulated. A whipped cream massage that allows you to lick each other clean is a perfect Pisces love play game… soft, soothing and sensuous. Foreplay and a long sensuous game into the actual act are perfect for the Piscean.

This is a touchy, feely sign that needs to touch and feel every step of the way to a bliss filled union. They hate showy, pretentious people, places or things including clothing, accessories and attitudes.

The time you take to know who you’re lovin’ and what it takes to become the most desired choice of sexual partner may be the edge that sets you apart and sends you to the front of the line!

‘Sex by the Signs’ is an excerpt from the upcoming ‘Sex By Your Sign; Lighting the Sexual Fires.’ Please join me at http://www.arkconnect.com to preview this and other available books on relationships and personal growth.

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Is The Sex Always Better In the Affair Than In The Marriage?

Much of the time, when people mention affair sex, they assume that it is so good that it is almost mind blowing. They assume that it has to be this good in order to make it worth the risk. Many spouses who have someone cheat on them also make this assumption, even if their spouse does everything in his power to insist that this isn’t true.

For example, you might hear a conversation like this: “my husband is trying to claim that his affair wasn’t about sex. In fact, he’s insisting that the sex wasn’t even good. He says that sex is better with me and that the other woman didn’t really know what he likes. But he says that the point of the affair was never about the sex. He was supposedly attracted to her because she listened to and supported him, or so he claims. I think that he is just saying this because he doesn’t want for me to have hang ups about sex if we stay together. Every one knows that affair sex is good, don’t they?”

Well, everyone assumes this. But I’ve had people comment that their affair was most definitely not about sex, just like this husband. Many of them say that the affair was more about excitement, emotional attachment and support, and having someone who seems to appreciate them without expectations.

For example, a husband might say: “when people see the other woman, they always assume that I was only in it for the sex. I wasn’t. I won’t say that we didn’t have sex because we did. But that was never the draw for me. I have been friends with the other woman for a long time. I made some bad investments that meant that I had to cut back on my spending. This made me wife treat me differently. She was always mad and she was always making sarcastic comments about me. The other woman isn’t like that. She’s happy to just go and have a picnic lunch and talk. She doesn’t expect me to buy her things and she doesn’t want to be taken care of. She’s content with just me. This is such a huge relief when contrasted with the expectations of my wife.”

I hear these sorts of comments a lot. And I hear them from people who have no reason to lie to me. I don’t know their spouses so I can’t possibly put in a good word for them. They just want to unload their feelings onto someone, which is often why they had an affair in the first place.

And I am not saying that this excuses them. There are no excuses. But, I think affairs based on emotions are just as dangerous, if not more so, than affairs that are based on sex. Anytime your spouse gets their marital needs met by someone else, that’s a problem.

But many therapists and professions will tell you that an affair is so much more than just sex. I’m not a professional, but I certainly do believe this. Sex is only one aspect of the relationship, but it is certainly not the only aspect.

Many people can’t possibly believe that a man would risk his marriage or his family for bad sex. The thing is, sex is not his payoff. His payoff is getting his emotional needs met. His payoff is the fact that the other woman doesn’t make him feel pressured. She makes him feel relevant again.

Now, is this reality? Most definitely not. If the affair continued on, it’s very likely that the other woman would develop expectations over time. People love to think that their affair partner doesn’t want anything from them or doesn’t have expectations or demands. But it isn’t realistic to expect that things are always going to be this way. The more serious and long term the relationship, the more expectations there are going to be.

And then this happens, the husband will often lose interest because he can get the expectations at home without much trouble at all.

Of course, the original question was about sex so let’s go back to that. Many people will tell you that affair sex is wonderful and some of them truly believe that. But most people will tell you that sex with the same person over time (like your spouse) is also good sex because that person knows you. They know what you like and what you don’t like. You’ve likely fine tuned your physical connection over the long term.

The person in the affair can’t say this. The relationship is often just beginning. Sure, there’s a bit of novelty but even that wears off quickly. Sometimes the sex starts off being perceived as good or even great, but once it’s no longer new, it’s nothing special.

I can’t possibly tell you or guess at what the sex was like with your husband and the other woman. But I can tell you that not everyone says that the affair sex was always good. Many will tell you that it was nothing special, but that was fine with them because the intercourse wasn’t the draw. The way the other person managed to make them feel was the draw. Or the relief they felt from some stressor or short coming was the draw.

Regardless of whether the affair was based on sex or something else, the healing is the same.  Recovery is necessary for both sexual and emotional betrayals. You can read more about my own process on my blog at  http://surviving-the-affair.com

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